The Beginning continued...

The day that you are told "things do not look good", "we need to investigate further", or you hear the words you most dread.."you have cancer",is the day that your life changes forever,your values, your needs, your lifestyle...pales into insignificance!You are left with a sense of emotions fit for a washing machine!!utter disbelief,complete panic,icy calm...you'll have them all...and then of course the norm that everyone speaks about, anger,denial and finally acceptance.Tears are a great stress buster although you may not be aware of it at the time. Ther is no right or wrong way to bahave or handle these emaotions as they are the most extreme emotions you will ever experience,do whatever you feel, you have a right...and don't let anyone stop you!!Some of you will choose to take your partners with you for follow up appointments and some of you will choose not to.This is a personal choice but once you have dealt with the initial blow, try and share the news with someone close to you who will listen and support you.It always helps to share the burden.Take time out to contemplate what ha happened to you and to come to terms with the fact that the time ahead is an extremely intense time with all sorts of unknowns waiting for you. No one can ever begin to relate to your feelings right now, unless they have been in a similar position and even then, people forget the early emotions.